I talk about this all of the time — I have a few poems about it too, one called Polishing Their Cages — about when women participate in things that toxic masculinity has said are normal — and justify their own objectification, etc — it is a cycle — feminism has really failed us by aligning itself with capitalism and saying that the goal is to “do what men do” instead of trying to change society to embrace and value things that are good in all directions — value pink, value blue, value softness, value strength but change the meaning of strength to include dealing with feelings, etc. etc — I mean there are some things that women do and engage in that are not helping anyone — men too, — our culture is 90% trash, after all. But, we can try harder, as you mentioned to practice awareness and to broaden the realm of possibility when it comes to self love and shifting the values of society. Thank you!